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Saturday, May 14, 2011

Farewell Maalie


I met Jim Fowler – aka Maalie – through his blog. I had not know him very long but we became very good mates quickly.
He was a regular visitor to Austria for its birdlife and always stayed at Illmitz. Near lake Neusiedl – not far from Vienna.  Last time he was here he also stayed with us for a few days in Vienna and was due to stay with us again at the end of May.
I spent a week with Maalie in Cumbria in January and he showed me all over the Lakes District. He truly was a delightful and indefatigable host. He was divorced a few years ago and one of the grounds cited by his then wife for the divorce was his ‘youthful exuberance’.
Indeed his exuberance had no limits. He would bound out of bed at the crack of dawn to make me a cup of tea and he would flog me around Cumbria from dawn till dusk pointing out countless birds and lakes - and he would actually test me on the fecking birds -
‘Quick Badger – what bird is that?’ he would shout
‘Um…Umm….it’s a Black-necked Grebe Maalie’ I would squeak  - saying the first name that came into my head – from the few names and birds that I memorized from my iPhone Bird Guide App the previous evening.
And occasionally I would get it right and he would be well pleased with me.
‘Well done Badger’ he would say ‘We will make a bird watcher of you yet’
‘Oh please no’ I would think because he would tell me about the freezing hours he would spend motionless in hides waiting for the Lesser-crested Mugwump to appear just so he could record it – because it had not been seen there for 5 years.
My problem is of course that all birds look the same to me – as I recorded in this blog after my trip.
He was full of life. He would say to me that he wanted to use every moment of his life to the fullest while he was healthy because he never knew what was coming next. Well he certainly did that. He wasted no moments at all as far as I could see. He ran up the fecking stairs to bed!
He was a good cook and would make me massive meals of things like fish pie and steak and eggs and the only way you could assure him that you were satisfied was to have second helpings.
After this I would waddle into the lounge room and we would have marvelous fun watching really old movies such as ‘Reach for the Sky’ and have a wee dram together. Last time I went there I took him a bottle of 18 year old Glenfiddich -and it was a fine drop indeed. 
He stayed with Cate and I a few months ago and we sent Cate to bed early. He and I stayed up for a very long time and had more than a wee dram. We drank to the wee hours -  and then well past the wee hours and spoke about life and birds – with and without feathers – and about the universe and matters great and small. Much I do not remember but it was important at the time.  
Like me, Maalie was an Atheist and had absolutely no fear of death. Like me – his only real concern was not understanding how everything fits together - and the thought that ‘wouldn’t it be nice to know how things turn out after we have well and truly gone.’
The only disappointment in Maalie’s life is the one we can’t talk about in this blog because it can affect other people.  It is the one thing that bothered him and the one thing that was beyond his reach - and would have made him happy beyond his dreams.
Other than that – he was just about the happiest damn man I have ever seen. I could never imagine that getting up at three o’clock in the morning to ring birds could make anybody happy but my mate Maalie was exceptional.
I took the finest photographs I have ever taken when I was in Cumbria. These were taken with my little Canon Powershot G12 and have not been digitally enhanced. They are in Picasa attached to the blog and the one with me on the stone bridge was taken by Maalie. I will post some more photos of Maalie in Picasa.
For a couple of years Maalie had been mad keen on Kayaking and this is apparently how he died. I am not sure of all the details yet but I lost contact with him on Thursday.
Maalie and I would exchange text messages or phone calls almost every day and he did not respond to my texts or messages on Thursday or Friday.  I was sent a link to a Cumbrian newspaper on Saturday morning about a police finding an empty Kayak on Coniston Waters and I knew then what had happened.  I have since learned that he died yesterday but I still do not know how or why.
I have not met his sons or sister and I probably never will. But I know a lot about them - and especially how much he adored his sons.
He was a very special man. A biologist, cricket fan, true friend, remarkably intelligent and excellent fun to be with. I will miss him terribly.  
It is my birthday tomorrow. He was with me on my birthday last year and I will have a wee dram for him this year. He was only a year older than I am.
Farewell Maalie.

21 comments:

Anna W said...

I'm so sorry you've lost such a good friend. It's wonderful that you have such good memories of your time together.

Wanderlust said...

Oh Badger. I am so sorry. I've been reading about you and Maalie now for a year and a half. I am so sad to read this, but heartened to know of how much joy your friendship brought to both of you. What a beautiful tribute to your friend. Much love to you, my friend. xx

Jane said...

What a sad yet joyful post. You had a great friend there, and I don't doubt that he had a great friend in you too. He sounds marvellous fun and extremely interesting - I can quite see that you two had an awful lot in common.
LOVE your blog btw.

One Woman's Thoughts said...

My condolences on the loss of a great friend.
My congratuations on the joys you both shared and will hold forever dear in your heart and mind.

fmcgmccllc said...

Louis Armstrong, It's a wonderful world.

William Skyvington said...

I was stunned by your evocation of Jim Fowler's empty kayak on Coniston Water, that same apparently calm lake where another adventurer, Donald Campbell, died in his famous Bluebird in 1967. There was a sense of foreboding in Maalie's description, last February, of a solitary kayak excursion on nearby foggy Thirlmere. His recent excursion to the Outback in Australia demonstrated his determination to pack as much into life as possible. I hope that Maalie's blog (with its many splendid photos) will be safeguarded as a memorial to this intrepid naturalist.

Merisi said...

"The stars are not wanted now: put out every one;
Pack up the moon and dismantle the sun;
Pour away the ocean and sweep up the wood.
For nothing now can ever come to any good."

I can't find words.

esbboston said...

I think that was backwards thinking on her part; I believe that ‘youthful exuberance’ is a grounds for staying together! I am sorry for your loss of a dear friend.

KP said...

Dear Dad,

so sorry for the loss of your wonderful friend. He sounded as though he lived his life as we all aspire to - enjoying and making the most of every moment. The kind of person who makes you want to be better and try harder. Thinking of you at this sad time.
KP

freefalling said...

Oh no!
Gone?
Just like that?
Oh no.

simon said...

Badger- i know what was out of his reach as we talked about it often. A brilliant tribute to him mate. I am very upset. I feel honored to have him here for a month and my children are all upset as well.

I have posted about him as well.

Simon

Gwenyth said...

Maalie was so much a part of your blog, such a frequent contributor and so often the subject, that I feel I know him. I loved the Cumbrian photos, I loved what a wonderful friend he was to you. I am thinking of you, and his other wonderful friends through your post.

a new girl in vienna said...

oh badger. i'm so sorry. so very sad. i'm lost for words. but thinking of you.

SK Waller said...

I'm always so full of words--more than are actually needed--but at times like these I can't seem to find any at all. I'm thinking of you and sending you my very best.

Katie said...

I keep writing and deleting, searching for the right words but can't seem to find them...
This post is a beautiful tribute to your friend. He sounds like a wonderful person.

Jenny Holden said...

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on losing the Maalie King. There are so many of us missing him and it is good to know that we are not alone. I received a phone call at midday yesterday asking whether I had heard from him and telling me that the police had found his car, an empty kayak and fishing gear. They had also found a body which they were trying to identify. I called his mobile in desperation but knew the truth. It transpires that a heart attack caused the accident and not the enormous pike that I thought would be a grand final adventure! He was a most excellent and intelligent man; friend and mentor. I miss his daily mickey-taking and am deeply saddened that he will not be at my wedding next month. Farewell on your new travels Jim.

Hermann U. Loewel said...
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Hermann U. Loewel said...

"Like me, Maalie was an Atheist and had absolutely no fear of death."

That's maybe the comfortable secret of being an atheist. Great!

Cheers! said...

I'm sorry for you loss, it is always hard to say goodbye to the ones we cherish. You have honored your friend in a beautiful way in your blog.

Badger said...

Thank you all for your comments about a wonderful man, father and friend.

Tina said...

Hello Badger. I am someone who cared very deeply for Jim, and yet have just found out about his death. I am so very sad. I wonder if you might consider emailing me? my email address is tinabina1995@gmail.com